How to be a good mum.
If anyone has any advice - I have a 20 year old son who naturally is wanting to become more independent- yet still relying on me to pick him up from shifts - he works in hospitality 5 times per week at 11.00 pm, and frankly feel like an Uber service. He has had a tough time, we have had very strict restrictions in terms of covid which has been particularly tough on young people, at times were only allowed to drive 5- 10 km. How do I balance being supportive and helpful, yet encourage him to move forward. I don’t mind him leaning on me -but if anyone has any idea how to keep balance in terms of supporting but not an over reliance on mum to do everything,I’m all ears. Thank you:)
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Just so you know this FACT: you are a very good Mum indeed from what you have mentioned, very loving and supportive. :) Now for my OPINION: It is wonderful that your Son is working and being a responsible young man by working full-time, especially during this Pandemic crisis and chaos when many people are depressed and cannot even function normally. My personal recommendation is to have him pay for all fuel costs and even vehicle maintenance, if need be. Until he is able to afford to buy himself his own vehicle.
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Enjoy seen him growing as a man, it takes sometime. Probable he will find his own career path soon and you should hang around there ( wait a little more).
A good mother is the woman who takes care of her babies all her life providing advise and love. You are doing a great job.
I think so. You are a great loving Mum and He should be glad you are His Mom.
I'll say just keep doing good for him, that's mom's job is never done.
II share your Mom's feelings, it is a very special thing to make sure your kids are always OK, even if they are grown up already.
Keep training and wait till he decides to find a partner and decides to give you Grandchildren and then you will need those moms skills.
I say you are doing very good, just be happy and take care about your boy.
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I guess you are not the only one being a good mother.
You live for him and You love him. It is a pure Mom's love. Just beautiful.
You have asked how to be a good Mum, but from what your have mentioned, it sounds like you literally are already being a very good Mum! :)
These are really great replies, thank you, he did try to live independently, it was too hard - for now.
Allow for him to share gas expenses for to work and back and if he is still living at home them have him prepare some meals for the family on set days that you agree on with him or something like that.